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8.29.2004

::sighs:: What a day. Work was...fun and emotional. My boss asked me to "go wake up Chuck E" about a half an hour after I got there, before I mentioned that Chuck E might be a little grumpy and not want to wake up, my Jeanine told me that the little girl had had her birthday party here and she wanted to see Chuck E before she left, then she told me that the little girl had something wrong with her, but she was not sure what and that she'd point her out to me so I would know who to say goodbye to. The little girl was an angel in disguise I tell you. Jeanine (who has a special little boy herself) began talking to the mother/grandmother while "Chuck E" came out to wish the little girl a happy bday again and say goodbye. I came out to see her and immediately went down on my knees so I was her height. She must have hugged me 10 times and about the 9th time, she just hugged me and wouldn't let go. I held her gently and petted her with care...I was crying, but trying not to show it. Afterwards, I had to take a bit of break in the Chuck E room to get myself back together. I also had to send up a thank-you prayer to God for showing me this beautiful little girl. It was one of those moments in life, where you sit back and think wow...all I worry about and everything that drives me crazy...isn't that darn important at all....of course I'll still worry, but...well you know. My job is so great though and I'm finally getting used to everythign and not feeling like an idiot...I wish I didn't have to leave it....because I really love it. In fact...I went to go pick up pizza for the girls (since I was being sent home early) and I went into the place and there was a little boy who had had his birthday in CEC and I had helped him select his prizes and he remembered me. There was an older couple sitting there and the rest of the staff. The older couple commented on my patience talking to the little boy and so did the guys working there. I laughed...kids can be cool if adults would just take the time to SLOW down and listen...life's short, don't dance so fast, the music won't last, you know?
Let's see what else. I think I'm going to go tanning and say it's my birthday gift to me. I am not going to inform my parents, I'll tell them...I'm swimming outside a lot (I do tan when I actually spend time outdoors, just the outdoors and I haven't been getting along). I need a haircut and I'm going to have Chris cut it SHORT and in short layers...I won't be back until Thanksgiving and my hair...it grows like there is no tomorrow and it's so THICK...it might get to the point where I have Jenny hack some of it off or it'll drive me mad. I also need to hit the gym pretty seriously...I am getting fat! I've put on 10 pounds this summer and this is just not cool. ::Sighs:: back to running, I just...running tends to be painful for me..it used to be a beautiful thing that let my mind and body relax, now it just sends pain down my back, but...so will another 10 pounds, so...it's a game I can't win, but I'll try, I'm in no mood to have more surgery. What else, what else...so much to do before moving in, so little time when I'm not working. I've picked up 2 extra shifts this week and tonight was actually a godsend to be sent home 2 hours early, thank goodness. But the girls first game is tomorrow (or I would have picked up a third shift). I love my girls! Kick ASS tomorrow Rach, you girls are AWESOME. It's also Blake's birthday tomorrow, happy birthday baby, I love you~ Now...it's time for me to go to bed...I'm dead tired. Goodnight and sweetdreams! love you guys


Searching For on 8/29/2004 09:49:00 PM.


8.28.2004

So...have I mentioned how lucky I am lately? How lucky I am EVERYDAY, instead of every 3rd day of every 9 month in the 32nd year? haha. I am quite in love with a charming, intelligent and wonderful dream come true. Lucky, lucky girl am I....I love you baby
Lana's mom is in town, yet I have yet to see her, I'm hoping to stop by before work tomorrow at least for a little bit. I should stop and see my second mother, it's just right. Good luck to all my classmates heading off to college...enjoy your first weekend. OH! and Rach good luck in the games this week! Kick some ASS! lylas


Searching For on 8/28/2004 03:31:00 AM.


8.25.2004

haha well...take two extremely rational 18 year olds that are horribly intelligent and make them love each other....they'll become very irrational and very happy...in an ususally short amount of time. As Reba says, "the heart won't lie." I believe Blake and I have had it all out...all the possibilities, all the hurt we've been through....futures...we've discussed our fears, our secrets...and we've decided, as irrational as it is, it still is.
I love you


Searching For on 8/25/2004 03:47:00 AM.


8.24.2004

ahh so I got my rooming assignment and...everybody breathe a sigh of relief. I am in a TWO person room in 4 room suite (I can now stop having nightmares about bunk beds and 2 drawers and half closets and half desks and NO PRIVACY). ahh...but I am on the 21st floor ::sighs:: Hopefully, I'll learn more about my roomate soon, I just sent her an email. So I live....here...

Suite 2102 Lincoln House

1810 Cannon Drive

Columbus, Ohio 43210
(614) 688-2628


Searching For on 8/24/2004 06:25:00 PM.


Finally...I've got both speeches in my possession. For safe keeping I'm putting them on here...but I'm telling you, the second one is so much better than the first...........................
INTRO: Danielle
Good afternoon Class of 2004, Administration, Board of Education, Our Honored Guests, and all friends and family in attendance. The four of us are standing before you today because we’ve run the race as a close group, and now we want to cross the finish line together. I know I wouldn’t be here without the help and support of my three classmates standing behind me, and I know that each of them shares this very feeling.
We have grown and learned together, both intellectually and emotionally, and we have not hesitated for a second to go to each other for help and guidance. We know that we can depend on one another to be there when we are struggling. On this same note, the Class of 2004 has learned to utilize the varying strengths and talents of its members. We have worked well together over the years, recognizing and respecting each other’s goals and abilities. We have met every challenge that has been placed before us.
Today we confront our classmates with one final challenge: to "Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow."

PAST: Clarisse
Learn from yesterday…
We have learned many lessons since we first walked through the elementary school doors in 1991. Let me take you back to the days of slouch socks, stirrup pants, fluorescent colors, and mullets. We were just learning to make friends and work together. Little did we know that we would take these lessons with us, and build upon them, in the years to come. Seemingly insignificant tasks, such as playing with the parachute in gym class, taught us the importance of teamwork and being able to rely on the people beside us.
Fifth grade was a time of change where we were starting to learn to fit into our own skin. We all shared fears and reservations about what to expect – changing classes, how to open our lockers and meeting new expectations - but looking back we realized that facing these fears helped us grow and learn and make the transition into the next phase of our journey.

PRESENT: Meghan
Live for today…
High school was a time of highs and lows. We all faced times of great loss and had to lean on and support one another. We each dealt with hardships in varying ways but through it all there was a mutual respect shown by our peers.
We said our final farewells to old friends like Mr. Brink, Mrs. Garrett and Ray the janitor and welcomed new teachers such as Mr. Snyder, Ms. Krupa and the “Hammer.” We also welcomed Mr. Ferraro, who has led our band program to continued successes.
Along with the successes in the arts came countless athletic triumphs. Our boys’ basketball team held LeBron to 14 points and broke the 30 year curse at Salem and this past school year the girls’ teams won an ICL triple crown.
We have lived for the moment, having fun at every stop along the way. As Mr. Simcox once said, we took the Big Apple by storm. We embraced new experiences with great enthusiasm, whether we were enjoying the music of a Broadway show or entertaining the crowds in line for the Empire State building with songs and chants. We ended our high school careers with an exciting grand finale: the ultimate waterballoon fight. We have truly lived for today.



FUTURE: Carrie
Hope for tomorrow…
The past thirteen years have been a blast, but these are not the best times of our lives. The fun is not over, we can look back and cherish the memories we are taking with us but it is time to continue on to the next chapter in our lives.
Our class will be leaving our mark in all different areas of life. As diverse as our interests were in high school, they remain so in our future plans. As we meet new challenges and set new goals we must always remember to never be satisfied, to always strive for more.
There have been many who have helped us prepare for the road that lies ahead and we are very grateful for the enthusiasm with which they shared their knowledge and for their guidance along the way. We would like to thank God, our teachers, our family, the administration and the board of education. Without you we would not be standing where we are today and going where we are tomorrow.
To the Class of 2004, thank you for the memories. We encourage you to embrace our final challenge – to learn from yesterday, live for today and hope for tomorrow. We leave you with this closing thought –
Carrie:
Today’s achievements mark
A fond farewell to yesterday,
A warm welcome to tomorrow.
Meghan:
The sunset of a beautiful part of the past,
The sunrise of a bright new future.
Clarisse:
The beginning of new challenges,
The promise of success in the future,
And the anticipation of ever greater happiness.
Danielle:
The future opens up before you,
Like a new book…
Waiting for you
To commit to its pages
The story only you can write.
Valedictorian Speech

Good afternoon, we are up here today because we worked harder and are smarter than the rest of you lazy asses still sitting in the audience. First off, we would like to thank Mrs. Sharillo for calling us wenches everyday, we only tried to drown ourselves in our bathtubs twice and we are stronger because of it and NO for the last time, we don’t want to watch your stupid movies! Also, we would like to thank Mr. Snyder for teaching us that learning is really about watching movies and eating pizza. We would like to thank Mrs. Gallo for her anal retentiveness in anal math. Also, a big thanks to Mrs. Garrett for her love of death, sex, and Dave’s Ham, and Mr. Dyer for helping out with our sleep deprivation. We would like to thank demon Dahmen from room 666 her class was a blast and her teaching was on Fiya! Mr. Knight, you were more of babysitter than a teacher, in your lab full of technology. Mrs. Louttit for the 8 hour calculus final, it was the most fun we’ve had in a long time, can’t wait to do it again! Toy, for his permanent PMS, you were always such a joy to be around. Mrs. Dunn for your extreme ADD, it taught us nothing but how to avoid flying objects in class. Señora Deg, your podium was a great hiding place, when you’re done teaching we’re sure Springer will have a job for you breaking up fights on the show. Madame Litch, Canada SUCKS, enough said. G Pimp Daddy Spaite, we hate to break it to you but purple hair, moccasins and tie pins don’t match, but thanks for the paper wars in the trenches. Doc, just for the record, it is NOT a beautiful day in New Middletown! Mrs. Latess, that’s cute outfit you’re wearing today, did you get it at Kids R Us? Krupa, Frank called, he hates your guts, sorry. Oh right these are supposed to be thank yous. Smerc, thanks for all the dog, oh wait, kid stories, they gave great insight into the interworkings of the United States government. Getz thanks for teaching us geometry no matter what class we were in, don’t ever invest in a microphone. Mr. Dunn, thanks for all “diet cokes” (we won’t tell). Mrs. Ade, you’re the number one villain in our hearts, we always knew it was you. Thanks for all the 7AM meetings, because we liked getting up that early. Mrs. Putarek, nature and poetry suck, but thanks for at least trying to make us appreciate things. Hammer, we’ve got a quote for you, “No, I don’t have my agenda and if I did have it, it wouldn’t be signed, my shirt is not too short and I am comfortable in these flip-flops.” Mr. Simcox, you will always be old, you will always be bald, and the sssshhhhpppp isn’t cool! And last, but definitely least, Ms. Mettee, what would we have done without you? Oh wait, we’d have Brink, have Phillips, and have passed a levy, but thanks anyway.
The only one we’ll really miss is Ray the Janitor. Oh how we loved Ray the janitor and his dirty jokes! He always had a dollar for those of us in need, can’t say the same for Calvin, though he is a party animal.
But seriously, if it were not for all these fun times, idiosyncrasies and tribulations high school would not have been the same. From the bottom of our hearts, thank you, we love you. For a copy of our real speech…try the yearbook room, we wenches will be awaiting your approval.


Searching For on 8/24/2004 12:06:00 AM.


8.23.2004

So I had...really bad cramps today. It's horrible when you start contemplating...when I'm pregnant...I won't have this problem for 9 months...I'll just have a baby...and I won't be able to see my feet...and I'll get fat..lol...okay not quite yet...
So today...I was thinking...about how much Blake and I have in common, how alike we are and everything else...it's frightening...truly. But I was also thinking how much...I love talking to him. Like by now....we should have run out of things to talk about. It's just different with Blake...instead of looking at the clock, drumming my fingers on the keyboard and thinking, when is this guy ever going to SHUT UP, or I WANT TO GO TO BED....I mean, I know this is ...silly...but honestly, I never feel the time pass. One minute it's 11, the next it's 4am. I mean normally I come home from work and die from the8-9 shift, but I'm perfectly content...no I'm ridiculously thrilled.... spending the time with Blake. This whole...whatever is very very DIFFERENT than the ususal...stuff... I was trying to figure out what was sooooo different besides us being SO ALIKE that it's scary (opposites attract my foot...trying dating one or two, or three)...and I think it all relates to me lacking suspicion...I'm not wondering if he's lying to me and I'm never lying to him and it's all so COMFORTABLE "and so broken in" (pardon my JM reference) and I so love it, it's just awesome and amazing and wonderful. ::finishes swooning:: sorry guys...I'll try to refrain...


Searching For on 8/23/2004 01:39:00 AM.


8.22.2004

Come Back to Bed-JM
Still is the life
of your room when you're not inside
All of your things tell the sweetest story line
your tears on these sheets
And your footsteps are down the hall
Tell me what I did
I can't find where the moment went wrong at all
You can be mad in the morning
I'll take back what I said
Just don't leave me alone here
Its cold,baby
Come back to bed
come back to bed
come back to bed
come back to bed
(come on back to me)
What will this fix
you know you're not a quick forgive
And I won't sleep through this
I survive on the breath you are finished with
You can be mad in the morning
I'll take back what I said
Just don't leave me alone here
Its cold,baby
Come back to bed
come back to bed
come back to bed
come back to bed
(guitar)
You can be mad in the morning
Or the afternoon instead
But don't leave me
98 and 6 degrees of seperartion from you, baby
Come back to bed
come back to bed
come back to bed
why dont you come back to bed
Dont hold your love over my head
dont hold your love over my head
dont hold your love over my head
dont hold your love over my head
dont hold your love over my head
dont hold your love...


Searching For on 8/22/2004 02:25:00 AM.


Love Soon...John Mayer i know you've been swarmed,
i read your complaint,
you're needing someone older.
and though i've been warned,to live day by day,there's something takein' overdid you expect to kiss me one time,while lookin at me with the same eyes ever again?so come on and say it!so come on and say it!it's time that we say it!you can cross the line whenever you want to,i'm calling it love soon.close your mind and waste sometime if you have to.i'm calling it love soonit's not about you now.it's what we areyour mother complains, that you need a manyou haven't mentioned me yet.and all of your friends dont know who i ami've been your best kept secreti understand i wasnt part of the plana dollar short of it, and earlybut i am your man.so come on and face itso come on and face itit's time that we say it!you can cross the line whenever you want to,i'm calling it love soon.close your mind and waste sometime if you have to.i'm calling it love soonit's not about you now.it's what we areit's what we arelet's bypass the bullshitand move on because the minute handmoves faster than you think it does.and by no fault of yours,and by no fault of mine,the bottom line is layin inthe bed that we've been playin in tonightwe've been playin in tonighti'm callin it love sooni'm callin it love soonyou can cross the line whenever you want to,i'm calling it love soon.close your mind and waste sometime if you have to.i'm calling it love soonit's not about you now.it's what we areit's what we are


Searching For on 8/22/2004 01:57:00 AM.


8.21.2004

Well...it was a most busy day at work. and work tomorrow and the next day...you get the picture.
I'm attempting to tread carefully and slowly with Blake. You know, it's one of those things I don't want to screw up. It's hard though...so many things are ironic, we're very similiar. I mean, I don't find myself trying to convince myself to like him or overlook flaws...I don't even see flaws. It's just...really wonderful and amazing and...different...very different. I love it, I really do. I love having Lana involved as well, it's just...really great.
Oh and Blake...you're welcome



Searching For on 8/21/2004 01:14:00 AM.


8.19.2004

Well...another normal day. I almost didn't post, but I was sitting here for a few months helping Jonathon with his woman issues and I thought...what the heck. I'm also somewhat waiting for Lana so we can have some girl talk. lol right before she got off she mentioned coming to visit in the fall with Blake and Tim (assuming a few things), I instantly liked this idea. hmm...oh the possibilities....


Searching For on 8/19/2004 11:35:00 PM.


So...a rather relaxing day. Beautiful workout today. Even spent some time with my mama and that went okay. Talked to Blake again tonight...definitely enjoyed that, which I have to admit is new. Normally I just agree or feel like I'm saying "right, yes, uh huh, really? interesting" about a gazillion times over. But Blake actually interests me, even when we're just talking about...stuff. He goes to college tomorrow...I'd be terrified, I'm terrified about going in a month from now. It's starting to become real...I'm starting to think about packing...it's all so...odd. Blake is the first guy I've actually found myself enjoying talking to about just about anything though. I really like it. Plus...I didn't have to explain to him what the "latter" means...I almost did a little dance for that one. ahh...what to say, what to say....


Searching For on 8/19/2004 12:58:00 AM.


8.18.2004

Well well well....talked to Blake this evening/morning. I will pay when I wake up at the crack of dawn (a few hours) to go to the gym with grandma.....but it was well worth it. Who would have thought? Good things are brewing....good things I tell thee.


Searching For on 8/18/2004 02:44:00 AM.


8.17.2004

I have some ranting to do...just to prepare you
I am so tired of watching all this unfaithfulness and cheating on TV, on movies. I do not know what it is that makes me so angry about all of this, I am not sure. It used to not bother me, but now, it makes my skin crawl and I become angry and I start to cry, sometimes I sob. Perhaps I am just in one of those emotional stages, but really. I have had enough of watching cheating in movies and such. Now I am not one to advocate that what kids see on TV is what kids will think is right, blah blah blah. Parents and family teach us right from wrong. But I am so tired of this CRAP on television. Cheating HURTS, one night stands HURT. They are not cool, somebody always gets HURT in the end. I want to see that part, I want to see the girl when he doesn't call her the next morning or suddenly he just disappears. I want to see how she FEELS, why don't they ever show that on TV? I don't want to see the tough side that she shows on the outside, I want to see her in her car driving home for 4 hours just completely distraught and confused. I want to see how see feels when she realizes she has been played. When she realizes that she put trust where she should not have. When she thought she was loved and all she was was USED. SHOW THAT. Show how much it hurts so maybe guys will THINK. I know I'm ranting but I don't mean all guys. Show the girl who was completely INNOCENT, INNOCENT, hadn't had her first KISS yet and show her being taken advantage of by someone she had trusted and LOOKED up to since she was a young child. Show her laying there, thinking, thinking of anything but what was happening to her, thinking of her boyfriend and how this time when he went to kiss her, she wouldn't turn away and giggle and give him that smile that says...soon, but not yet. Show her thinking about leaving, wanting to scream bloody murder but knowing she couldn't, she just couldn't because...no one would ever believe her and she just couldn't do that to the people it would involve. Show what she was thinking when he finally pulled away and she wanted to run out of the room but instead she had to have a logical conversation and she had to hear him say, "I'm sorry, I was out of line" SHOW THAT. Show how she felt in church after that, show how she struggled for a over a YEAR to get her shit back together. Show her with her boyfriend, who now she won't even let touch her without flinching or crying. Show his confusion, show his HURT at this girl that he LOVED...and she won't even hold his hand, but she can't let him go because besides her dad, her grandpa and her brother, he is the only one she will trust. Show how she shudders whenever a guy looks at her. Show her wearing sweats and t-shirts for almost a full year, show her getting fat because she doesn't want to be found attractive anymore. Show her not being able to sleep because she feels ashamed and hurt and confused. Show her screwing up a really good relationship because she is so LOST. Show her badgering God, how could he let this happen to her. Show her smiling on the outside, becoming so nice to everyone and realizing how precious an innocent life is. Show her struggle to get over it, but she can't. Show her breaking up with her boyfriend because she doesn't want him to hurt anymore and she knows she can't make him happy like this. Show her trying to deal with it and fighting with everything that she has. Show her breaking down a telling a few select friends every wretching detail, show her tears and her growing away from her parents because she just can't tell them. Then show her getting over it. Show her faith returning to God. Show her shunning it to the back of her mind. Show her yearning for her ex, show her trying to make it work again. Show her begging him to take her back and him wanting to, but never being able to trust her again because she couldn't care about him before and all the cruel things she said and did. Show her clinging, begging for another few months and him wanting to...but just not feeling his love for her anymore. Be there when he tells her that he's found someone new. Then go with her as she goes to a bar and she meets a guy that's not a jerk the next night. Watch her let herself fall right back into another guy's arms. Watch her listen to what he has to say, watch her eyes let up when he calls and listen to her tell everyone that he doesn't want to sleep with her. Then venture on, after she's driven 200 miles to see him again. Watch her heart break as the night before, he tells her "I dont think I can commit right now" Then watch her hopes soar as he takes her on the most romantic date, cares for her. Journey with her as she spends the night with him, finally sure she's found the one. Let her live her fantasy as he takes her home the next morning....then watch her anguish as he ignores her calls. Then watch her pain when he says...."i think we should just be friends" watch her fall apart again. The TV people...when they show cheating...they need to show...hurt...when they show love...they need to show betrayl. They're not showing rea life and that is what infuriates me. Yes, show her finally, FINALLY resolving her issues with God, show her FINALLY being happy being single, show her success, heck show her family who thinks she's an angel that's not interested in the opposite sex, who has "a good head on her shoulders" show all of this. Just portray life...stop lying. Let guys know that one night stands can hurt, raping/taking advantage of girl, isn't cool, and pretending to love a girl when you don't is even worse.
  • Told you guys I was going to rant.....it's just ranting though. It felt good to get out. Now I'm going to go to work and work with the little kids that I love. Love you all


Searching For on 8/17/2004 02:36:00 PM.


8.16.2004

I had a dream about Blake last night...how like WEIRD is that? Can't say it was a bad dream though...I mean he's attractive, intelligent (even more than I am), great sense of humour... I wouldn't mind getting to know him a little better... wonder how far Western Kent. is from OSU....


Searching For on 8/16/2004 10:50:00 PM.


Rachel and I have been dating/becoming involved with some serious assholes...and together we decided that we need a REAL man...one who knows how to treat a lady...for an EXTENDED period time (not a one night stand)....here's our list...

1. Has a nice car
2. Doesn't make us feel guilty for stuff we didn't do
3. Pays for our dinner, even AFTER we offer to
4. Tell us (tastefully) how good we look all the time (even when they think we know)
5. R-E-S-P-E-C-T (we're through being treated like TRASH! and being USED, you're not that good in bed!!!!)
6. No early I love you's....but I love you's when the time is right
7. They cant pressure us for anything cause they gotta really REALLY care about us- not just our physical appearance or what not
8. They have to be intelligent...we're tired of guys dumber than we are
9. They have to publicly display their affection and brag to their friends about us
10. They have to like our friends, especially me/Rach...no questions!
11. They have to be crazy in love with us, 24/7 mushy stuff, at least some stuff (eat, sleep, breathe)
12. They have to be willing to die for us!
13. They gotta tell us that we are adorable and thats why they like us so much
14. When they tell us that they want to be with us the rest of their life they gotta mean it with all their heart because if they dont have their word they dont have nothin
15. They have to have a sense of humour
16. They have to love to be physical and play cool games (basketball, volleyball, etc)
17. They have to be okay with the occasional "fuck, shit, or damn"...it happens, we're sorry...but we dont' swear all the time...and neither should you
18. They have to do cute things, a single rose for no reason, surpises (good ones), fancy dinners..
19. They have to be seen in public with us...and actually introduce us to their friends...and on occasional, let us hang out with their friends
20. ROMANCE (they have to make us want to sleep with them...and not just b/c our hormones are running rampant)
21. They need to know our likes and dislikes
22. Take us on fun dates (not necessarily expensive) to the park when it's a nice day, for a walk, etc
23. When we're stressed...they have to realize it...and try to do something to cheer us up, give us full body massage (with aromatherapy oils and peach-scented lotion)...SOMETHING (hey we'd do the same for you)
24. Watch the occasional chic flick with us (NOT ALL THE TIME) just when we need it...watch it okay?
25. When we cry...you cry
26. Take care of us when we're sick...take the soup out of the can..we'll still love you for thinking of us.
27. Realize what's important to us...come to our games...cheer us on...whatever is important to us (church, family functions, etc)
28. Make us dinner...even if it's just mac and cheese...we'll still love you for it
29. They have to appreciate the double date on occasion
30. We love it if you play an instrument (like the guitar) and if you sing...we'll melt..
31. We like accents!!
32. Be comfortable in what they wear...and be able to dress for occassion
33. We love guys bodies...they dont' have to be gym junkies...but we work out...so should you..
34. We love it when you make the first move...just don't make it too fast...or too slow...read our body language...it'll tell you
35. Kiss our ears...it's such a turn on
36. Mean what you say and say what you mean...don't bullshit us...don't play us...and don't use us...and don't LIE to us
37. We don't want to hear how you're afraid of commitment...and no we don't want to talking about EVERYTHING in our relationship...let some stuff go...and only talk about the stuff we actually need to.
38. They have to be okay with meeting our parents and do a good job....it's just a few minutes..it will be okay

Basically, guys have to realize that we're human and we have emotions even when we try not to show them. We get hurt and we are hurt easily...we can recover, we'll give you another chance...just don't treat us like shit (we've been treated like shit too many times)...be a man...treat us like a lady...and you won't regret it.

THEY CANNOT
1. Make fun of us or make us feel stupid
2. Whine about a long distance bill, or anything dealing with money, we're WORTH IT OKAY
3. They can't have phone sex, that's disgusting and immature, DON'T ASK US WHAT WE'RE WEARING!!!!
4. They can NEVER EVER EVER brag about themselves (at least not for more than a few minutes)
5. Cause us stress (ALL THE TIME)
6. Stand us up...and then have no idea why we're upset
7. They can't tell us to write them love letters and then not write one back
8. They CAN'T forget our birthdays
9. Make us lie about our age to their friends
10. Meet them at Wal-mart (when we're not even going in)
11. They CAN'T flirt with other girls
12. They cant be on one phone line with you and on their other phone line with another girl

Now...guys and girls alike...feel free to add to list....or comment on it...I like comments...and this list will be updated


Searching For on 8/16/2004 09:14:00 PM.


Well...I got my heart stomped on again. I got used...big time. I let it happen, it was my fault...I should have been smarter, you'd think since I just got my heart stomped on..I would have known better. I didn't expect this one to hurt so much. I talked to Nate tonight as well, I actually finally stopped hating him, it was a short convo...but...I think I'm finally healing over that. In fact right now, he's looking pretty darn good...haha...laugh guys. But I might actually want to talk to him as my friend on occasion. Anyway...just thought I'd let you know Kevin used me...ah well....back to normal life.


Searching For on 8/16/2004 12:21:00 AM.


8.15.2004

Well...I'm home...but I can't say I'm happy about it. For the first time ever...I didn't get homesick...and I actually did not want to come home. Don't get me wrong...I love my parents tons...but...honestly...I didn't want to come home.
It was an emotional weekend to say the least. I put in some job applications as was planned and I saw Kevin one evening, also as was planned. My date with Kevin...unbelievable. I'll sum it up quickly and edit as I see appropriate. We went to eat, which was fun enough, then to a park...which was AMAZING. It had the coolest dam that we watched for a little bit (he held me...I loved it), then we got ourselves comfortable on a bench and he surpised me by doing some serious cuddling...and we did some sweet kissing. Just the way he held me and the amount of trust I put in him so quickly (something I never do). It was the a-the biggest turn on EVER and b-the sweetest thing. I absolutely loved it. We had a good laugh too because we were right next a police station...talk about PDA! Then of course we went and saw Spider Man II (it stunk...too much love story), I had a good enough time there, but we had to be good because we had a 50 year old couple that came in late and sat down right next to us...we were not happy about that, but ah well. Then I'm going to leave it by saying that we spent the night together and it was the best night I have ever had in my whole entire life. Many firsts occured, but the most important to me was Kevin actually respecting the one boundry I put up. I gave myself to him completely and for once, I didn't regret it, make grocery lists in my head, or spend time trying to turn away terrible memories. I enjoyed the moments as they happened. I fell asleep in his arms a few times and it was the bestest place to be ever. The next morning had it's issues...but I wanted to be careful with Kevin and not crowd him. I absolutely hated to go today, I dreaded going and dragged my feet about the whole ordeal. Kevin and I have not truly talked since all this happened...and I want to know what he's thinking. I know what I'm thinking. I'm thinking I had the time of my life and I'd love to spend more time getting to know Kevin. I'd love to date Kevin eventually and I'd pretty much do just about anything for him. Our "relationship" is crazy and sometimes I think "this is SO unlike me" but the thing is...it feels right, and I just want to keep doing what feels right...there is nothing wrong with that is there?
I went to bed last night without talking to Kevin, which I was not a really big fan of, but I'm trying to give him the space he needs or wants. Crowding him or making him feel like he needs to make an immediate decision is the last thing i want to do. If he wants me to be true and faithful to him only for another month and a bit (until I'm down there 24/7) without a relationship, that's cool with me. If he wants a relationship, that's cool with me, if he just wants to be friends and hang out...that's cool with me too. I really prayed my heart out at church today with Phil and Jenny. Kevin has made me realize that I have some things I need to work on with God in my life...a lot of things. On my 4 hour drive home (bad traffic)...I prayed and I cried and I begged forgiveness in the solitude of my car. I had so much to pray about. I finally gave my life back to God, begged for mercy and apologized about a gazillion times for my stupidity and lack of faith. I've been studying the Bible lately...I'm not swearing...I'm thinking before I say things and I'm praying with all my heart. I'm also actually, (HONEST) in love with certain Christian Rock music...I listenened to that in between my sobbing fests on the way home as well. I am putting my trust in God and not in fiction books. Although ideas found in fiction books are sometimes interesting...and good for the brain to contemplate...I think I forgot to remember that our faith is blind, that we cannot do anything but trust in God and believe. We walk in faith, but not by sight. I forgot that, I forgot so much. Life...becomes much less complicated when you give yourself back to God. I was reading a lot in Matthew (which hits some really good stuff) and it was expressing how you have to trust God to lead everything and make sure that you have what you need. Worrying will not help and God will take care of you, if you let him. Such a powerful message. I have to admit, some of my tears cried and my confusion and my prayers were about Kevin...I was scared and worried that I had been used again, I was hurt. But then I just gave everything to God...and I truly believe...he will do what is right...what His will is...and even if I don't like it...He knows what he's doing. I'm putting our "relationship" in His hands...I'm hoping our "relationship" works out...I hope that is God's will...a girl can still hope right?



Searching For on 8/15/2004 08:20:00 PM.


8.09.2004

A relaxing day....just a few more until I see Kevin...thank goodness, I think I'm falling madly for that boy....
1) What animal best represents you? I'm not sure... a puppy perhaps, b/c no matter how many times you tell it's worthless or that you don't care for it...I always come back, lol...okay how about a puppy because they're so cute and loving?
2) What color best represents you? I don't know...how about yellow?
3) What season best represents you? Winter...the coldness/getting warmed up and the clothes are sooo much more me
4) What emotion best represents you? Oh goodness, I have no idea. psychotic perhaps?
5) What flower/tree/plant best represents you? ummm...the single rose....it is beautiful by itself until it gets launched with 11 others..than it loses it's specialness...


Searching For on 8/09/2004 11:44:00 PM.


Just for all records...I am madly in......like.....with my darling Kevin and it is HE I am going to see this weekend (as well as jobs I have to search for). Although we experience our ups and downs...I am his baby and I think this is an absolutely wonderful relationship. I could not ASK for more. He's sexy, wonderful, amazing, cute, funny, caring, loving...I am the luckiest girl in the world~
I didn't want to waste any more blog posts on Nate...but I figured...I suppose the actual closure should be there....


Searching For on 8/09/2004 02:27:00 AM.


::sighs:: Nate emailed me and at first I freaked and was ticked (actually I almost fell out of my chair to see his name in my email) and then well...I ended a chapter in my life...realized that I'm still in love with Kevin and it's okay to have a past.....and completely closed the door where Nate resided....the final (and I do mean final) communications were as follows....
hey,
first of all i must appologize. i will admit i was going to let you cool off for a week or so before i emailed you after all that but i didnt mean for it to be this long. dad took our computer to be fixed and this is the first week we have had it back in about 3 weeks or so. i just wanted to email you and see how you were doing and so on and if you wish that i just not be in any contact with you at all just tell me or dont write back i will understand because i know sometimes its easier that way but i wanted to keep my word and at least write you an email. anyways im going to get some sleep. so drop me an email if you want if not i can leave you alone. its completely up to you but if you want i will talk to you later. bye bye nate~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Hey,
hmm where to start...first off...your apology for waiting so along was unnecessary, although I was royally pissed off at first, I now feel I need to thank you. I contemplated not saying anything and pretending you'd fallen off the face of the earth...but well, that's not quite my style.

Anyway....your falling off the face of my earth until now was the greatest thing you could have done for me. I guess I never realized how unsuited we were for each other and I never could until you weren't there for me to run to whenever it suited me. Not having you in my life made me realize I could do it without you easily (no offense), I learned to be happy for me again and how to live for me. I also learned how to find somone....compatible. Monday night after...yes well...I went out to the bars alone, fully intending to drink myself silly and do a few things I'd regret, have a hang over in the morning and be over you by noon, or least have killed most of the brain cells that contained memories of you (no offense)...but anyway, I guess Fate or God or perhaps a mixture decided that wasn't quite right for me (I am such a pathetic drunk) and before I managed to even get out my id that made me 21 for the evening I fell into conversation with a guy (who wasn't there to drink) I had ended up finding quite fascinating and what's more fascinating is that he actually lives in Columbus not far from my dorm. I've spent the past 3 or 4 weeks extremly happy with him and what's better...him with me and this weekend I'm taking a 4 day holiday from my new job (something else I managed to snag recently). Anyway...I guess it suffices to say I'm overly happy and in a pretty direct way....I have you to thank, b/c if you hadn't realized what I never could (that we were horrible for each other) I never would have found Kevin. So.....thank you....and I really mean it. Everything happens for a reason....and I'm really starting to believe that. Thank you.

Anyway...quite frankly...I have enjoyed our time apart after I got over being hurt and angry and upset. Things won't ever be same (which I tend to believe is a good thing) so why try to pretend like they are? I'd like to hear how things are going on occasion, whenever you get the urge to drop me a line...once a month...twice a year...once a year..never...if I feel it unnecesary, unappropriate, etc..then I won't reply. I also wish you all the happiness that you deserve and that everything worked well between yourself and your new found...interest. Thank you for showing me that there is "life out there" (to quote Reba). uh-huh and that's all I have to say.

Clarisse



Searching For on 8/09/2004 01:51:00 AM.


8.06.2004

Still reading RBC...it's still HORRIBLE
Kev called me tonight...completely trashed...HILARIOUS. Funny stuff, funny stuff. I laughed...he asked me if I was mad...right? Me, mad at a drunk person? As long as I don't have to go pick their asses up at 3am what do I care? He was hilarious and sooo adorable, I just kept laughing. You can't get mad at that, you just can't.
I put my request in to be off next weekend so I can go put in job applications (okay so yes I HAVE to do that...but really I just want to see Kev). I'm hoping to go down Friday evening and then leave Sunday evening. My first road trip all by myself =-} I miss my baby a lot...this is not a pleasant situation to be so far when you've found what you believe to be the love of your life...
I opened my little cabinent on my bed tonight while Lana and I were laying there and I found some more Nate crap, I was like, dude, I thought I got rid of all that shit (excuse my language, but really it doesn't even deserve to be called crap), so I ripped it up and Lana threw it away for me. It's funny...I thought I'd never be able to get over him and the Monday after he told me to go to hell...God sent me the greatest guy I could ever wish for. I truly believe that I am extremely blessed. Kevin is everything I've ever wanted...and I found all these things out...after I decided I needed to become his significant other...lol I know what some of you guys are thinking "I TOLD YOU SO A HUNDRED TIMES YOU IDIOT!!!!" this is true, but I had to mess up for myself to figure it out all out and go through hell and put my heart into a horrible relationship. But now I feel like the luckiest girl in the world. I never have to watch what I say and when we disagree I'm not bitched about it for ever. He asks me about my day, lets me rant....he rants...it's an actual RELATIONSHIP. haha, who would have thought? Anyway, I am sleepy and I need to get to sleep. I love you all...and I'm soooo happy...oh and the job...AWESOME...so much fun...even though it's stressful...Gina and some other great people working, it's just awesome. Love you all very much


Searching For on 8/06/2004 01:02:00 AM.


8.05.2004

Well...not too much to report....I am reading RBC..it's pretty horrible...
I have quite the headache and have for a few days...and congestion, coughing, sneezing. One would say I am getting sick. I was talking to Kevin tonight and finally he said "baby I really have run out of things to say and you're not saying much at all...I'll let you go" lol, Kev is AMAZING of course...but when I have a headache that I've carried for over 15 hours...and he's actually awake and out and about...my head begins to throb a tad bit more. I love him of course though, no one should ever be blamed for their enthusiam.
I have to work tomorrow and I believe Lana and I are going shopping. I'm starting to feel fat again and I'm not really sure why. I also have to request off the next weekend so I can see Kev and turn in applications (right so I can see Kevin). ugh...the head continues to ache...goodnight all...much love and hugs and kisses~


Searching For on 8/05/2004 12:19:00 AM.


8.04.2004

Well....ahh soo much to say, so much to keep inside.

Kevin and I had a bit of a spat (a religious one of ALL things) Monday night. I was NOT happy about that and I felt very very guilty and made myself a promise to be careful about what I say when...I'm not as educated in the subject matter as I think I am. I have a lot to learn from Kev when it comes to certain things and I need to remember that. Sometimes I get high and mighty and self-rightous and I become one of those people that I HATE, the ones that won't LISTEN or respect the other's opinion, it's those times someone needs to tell me I'm full of crap and to go away for a few minutes and THINK. I was suprised...Kevin didn't melt to my whim, he held his own... and in the morning...it was over. We had agreed to disagree and it was over. He didn't make me feel guilty for not agreeing, it wasn't brought up again...it was just over...dead. He wasn't going to break up with me because I did not agree and he wasn't going to hold it over my head and bring it up later or stop treating me like an angel. I was amazed....and really happy.

I was also REALLY happy when I said something offhand, like, wait until we have a big fight and you hate me (or something to that effect) and his answer was along the lines of...well of course we're going to fight...but we'll get through it, relationships, even the greatest ones aren't all laughs and kisses and hugs and roses. I could have married him (haha). Guys...I THINK I FINALLY FOUND A GOOD ONE! ::gasps:: (lol, more like God decided it was time I found Mr. Right instead of Mr. Right Now).

My faith in the Big Man Upstairs strengths a lot because of Kevin and I really love it...not that I'm a heathen...but..

CEC has been a fun job, even if it is crazy. It's a blessing in disguise..I love the little kids.

Lana's here......we've been having a BLAST. I love her.

I've been buying stuff for college......it's getting closer

I'm going to see Kev next weekend as long as I can get it off. Wow I need to see him. He has something for me!! lol. He's the cutest romantic but still tough guy ever ::sighs:: He sings awesomely, he just started playing the guitar ::swoons:: he makes me laugh like no other and he makes me want to jump into his arms when my whole world is falling apart...or well..just cause. I also want to change the world when he's having a bad day and I want to kiss it and make it better. I laugh because he's perfect for me...but I honestly think...divinly inspired...b/c you see...I had to date Nate b/c I had to be able to accept certain things I never would, had I not dated him. okay I'll stop blabbering on and on. But...I love Kevin lots and I miss him lots and ::sighs:: September 19th just can't come soon enough, even if does bring homesickness, hard work and various other things. I'm very interested in falling asleep in his arms more nights than not.




Searching For on 8/04/2004 01:32:00 AM.


8.02.2004

i love clarisse. and i think im happy for her she has found a cute boy that wasnt an ass like nate and even though she met him at a bar i thitnk that it is good that he is a jesus freak like other people and he doesnt want to fuck her brains out ; he wants to love her first..awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww the end of my mindless typing 2nite


Searching For on 8/02/2004 12:50:00 AM.


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